Build Your Life Now

 

As a follow up to my last blog post, I spent a decent amount of time thinking about what I wanted my life to look like. But I had to branch out some to find new ways of thinking that would help me create a compelling vision for the life I want to live. It wasn't going to happen only by adding back fewer things, my first principles. As good as that is for reducing stress, I wanted to think bigger and add in things that would take my life to new heights, new places. I spent time in solitude thinking about what truly brings me alive and how I can add more of that to my life. I reviewed old journals, old lists of goals, old dreams that I had let whither on the vine.

I can’t do them all, and that’s not the point. My goal is to create a life I love to live. I want a life that I don’t want a vacation from for two weeks a year.

We all have choices in life. We can react to what happens in our lives, or we can go out and make things happen. If we spend our time reacting to...

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When In Doubt, Simplify

 

Life can get complicated quickly and completely catch us off guard, no matter how well we think we have things planned out. We get laid off at work with no warning, a relationship ends, a health crisis pops up, a loved one passes away. In moments like these, we struggle with two things. One, we wrestle with making sense of the event. And two, we struggle to know what to do next.

I want to focus on the second issue here. I do think it’s valuable to look at the events as they happen, process our emotions, and not sweep things under the rug. But we have much more control over how we are going to respond to life’s events, regardless of whether we ever fully understand their origins.

As we enter a new year, there’s a  feeling of excitement as we look forward to a clean slate and start making plans for all the things we want to accomplish. As I was wrapping up 2018 and completing  my plans for the first quarter of 2019, I had two things happen to me within the...

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If You Don't Like It, Change It!

 

The great Jim Rohn has stated that “Failure is nothing more than a few errors in judgment repeated every day.” This happens because we don’t see an immediate consequence to our actions - nothing drastic happens immediately so we continue to err.

Over the long term, though, those errors in judgment add up.

Fortunately, this principle works for success as well. As Jim Rohn stated, “Success is a few simple disciplines practiced daily.”

So how do we change between those errors in judgment to the daily disciplines to ensure success?

We have to think about the future, the long term. This is done by asking yourself, “What’s the logical conclusion or result of my daily actions?”

In my own life, I wanted to increase my flexibility and agility but wasn't doing anything to make a difference or improve. I wasn't performing the physical therapy exercises I'd been given. I wasn't stretching. I knew the end result was me being immobilized sooner. I...

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5 Lessons from 5 Years of Multiple Sclerosis

gratitude psychology Oct 23, 2018

Last month marked five years since I officially received my diagnosis of multiple sclerosis. I turn 45 years old this week, and a lot has changed in my life, my mind, and my body. I wanted to take a moment to share some of the biggest lessons I've learned (and relearned) during this period that help me stay focused on what truly matters.

Lesson #1: We can always choose our response to life's events

This is listed number one because it's the lesson I wish I had learned much earlier in life. But I didn't. Better late than never, though.

We love to plan, project and dream. And then life happens. Sometimes, we get what we wanted and often we get something we never expected. Regardless of what life throws our way we get to choose our response. I gave myself two weeks to have a pity party after I received my diagnosis. After that, it was game on. I realized I didn't want MS to dictate my future. I decided I was going to make the most of the time, energy, and mobility while I still...

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5 Steps to Get Less Done

clarity execution Jul 10, 2018

The Importance of Doing Less

In a world consistently asking us to do, be, and have more, it's easy to fall into the productivity trap of getting more done.

What would happen though, if we tried to get less done, yet were living our ideal lives?

We can take a few tips from high performers. High performers become that way by intentionally doing less. They focus on what matters.

Brendon Burchard discusses how high-performers don't necessarily do more:

No matter the field, [high performers] produce more quality output that matters in their field. It’s not that they get more done, per se; lots of their peers might do more tasks. It’s that high performers get more things done that are highly valued in their primary field of interest. They remember that the main thing is to keep the main thing the main thing. That focus to create only output that will be meaningful helps them excel.

- Brendon Burchard

This doesn't just apply to your job. Your primary field of interest...

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You're Ready

coaching execution Feb 20, 2018

"When do you think you'll be ready?" she asked. 

Silence.

She continued calmly, "What would have to happen for you to feel ready? Is anything outside of you going to do it? Are you waiting for permission?"

She's good. She better be. This is costing me a small fortune.

Before I could respond, she snuck in a line from one of my favorite quotes, "Your playing small does not serve the world."

"Damn, she's really good," I mused.

I had no answer for her. At least, no answer she was going to let me say that wasn't an excuse. And yet, this was what I signed up for.

I recently started working with a high-performance coach to assist in breaking through some plateaus to take my life and business to the next level. On our most recent call, I shared my doubts about my ability to have an impact on others, to serve by helping them grow and live with intention. After all, this is a new direction I'm heading, one which encompasses all my experience, growth, struggles, triumphs, and failures....

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Better Stories Lead to Better Lives

psychology vision Jan 31, 2018

Getting Off Course

Some days are better than others. There are days we're in the zone and days we don't know who we are. When I'm having a down day, usually I feel lost, scattered, and not sure what to do next. Years of using countless productivity systems and reading personal development books will tell you it's because you've lost touch with your why. You've gotten away from your mission, your passion, what drives you.

I logically know if I'm not focused on my highest priorities, I can easily stray off course. However, there's a difference between getting off course and wondering if you're on the right path. What does it even mean to be on the "right" path? There are so many paths we could choose to pursue each day, it's overwhelming. Add crippling self-doubt, and you've got a recipe for a miserable existence.

Start With Reflection

I spent several days this past week trying to determine the disconnect between what I consistently do and what I say I want to do, the work that would...

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Welcome

clarity execution focus Jan 24, 2018

Welcome to the new website for Kevin Gainey & Co.!

We are happy to be working on a new platform that will allow us to consistently provide top-notch content and membership services.

Our goal is simple:

Provide world-class training and resources to equip individuals and businesses to live and work with intention, to gain strategic clarity, and to execute with focus.

We look forward to releasing our first products in the coming weeks and helping you live with intention.

Warm Regards,

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